Written by Paul Dix.
If you are not an advocate of the aggressive, sanction-based method of behaviour management, then some schools can be a very lonely place to work.
I met a teacher recently whose department head wanted her to manage behaviour as he did: aggressively and confrontationally. Her method, which was proving very successful, was more subtle and nuanced than her colleague's explosion of anger at unpredictable intervals. That her method was working was not enough for her manager, and she ended up having to move schools to have the space to manage behaviour in a way that she found worked for her.
Unfortunately, there are many similar enthusiastic (and inexperienced) department heads out there that have bought the lie that children are dangerous subversives and, not satisfied with being persistently hostile to the children in their own classes, they want the entire department to replicate their practice. They even produce books that tell everyone exactly how to teach each lesson and new rules start to appear that are more stringent than is necessary.
With middle leaders demanding this iron-fist approach, more measured, assertive practice is being crushed. Even teachers who have excellent behaviour in their classes are being asked to give more detentions and those who do not punish regularly, or who fail to adopt a more dictatorial approach, are told that they ‘lack confidence' in the classroom. This terminology begins appearing on observation forms, whispered in middle management meetings and written into CPD plans.
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Confidence should not be confused with assertiveness. You can be a beautifully assertive teacher with your students without being a confident character and you can manage behaviour without resorting to ugly aggression or stupefying sanctions. In short, it is just as valid to be a horse whisperer as it is a lion tamer.
Being a horse whisperer is about a sure-footed, assertive approach that is a daily drip-feed of consistency. Here, you use simple assertive sentence stems that convey assertiveness: "I need you to..."; "You will be..."; "In two minutes I am going to come back and see..."; "I know that you...".
It is also not about a teacher's physical presence. Physical assertiveness is not dependent on something as obvious as size, but on the nuances of movement, pace, personal space and appropriate distance. It is body language that is tailored to the needs of the individual child. The best teachers working with the toughest classes are often no match for their students physically. They have had to find more subtle ways to influence behaviour.
Beyond sentence stems, and tailored body language, you can also use assertive structures: closed choices, deal making; encouraging the student's responsibility to react appropriately by saying things like "We need to have an adult conversation to resolve this"; and lastly showing belief, even in the face of overwhelming odds, with a statement like ‘I can feel that this is going to be an excellent session/lesson' making all the difference.
You also have a choice as to when you engage with bad behaviour - you do not have to instantly meet it head on. You might choose to record it and address it at a more appropriate time, ignore it, confront it or walk away and consider your response. Assertiveness is knowing that you can control your own behaviour and making considered appropriate choices in your response to students.
All the above tactics are just as assertive as the aggressive method of standing your ground, just saying "no" and repeating your demand (the ‘broken record' technique) - if not more so. Yet they are being lost from the repertoire of behaviour management strategies in favour of the didactic, nice-nasty dichotomy insisted upon by many ‘lion tamer' department heads.
There are certainly strong arguments for the role of lion tamers, but there is just as valid a set of arguments for those more quietly assertive horse whisperers. Calm assertive certainty may not be the ‘shock and awe' tactics that excite dictatorial middle leaders, yet it will allow you to teach the children a personal discipline that does not rely on the lion tamer's whip. And teachers should have the freedom to embrace that strategy for as long as they can prove it works.
In short
- While department heads may demand an aggressive approach to behaviour management, more subtle techniques can be just as effective.
- You can use simple assertive sentence stems to show control, such as "I need you to..." and "You will be...".
- You do not have to be huge physically to use body language - the nuances of movement, pace, personal space and appropriate distance can be very effective when it is tailored to a specific child's needs.
- Assertive structures can also be adopted: closed choices, deal making, positivity and treating students as adults.
- Timing when you tackle behaviour is also a tool. You do not always have to meet it head on at the moment it occurs.